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You should adjust yourself
It should be an article to talk about your feelings and confusing, and discuss the answers with the people with similar situation, somehow, while reading this articles, my impressing is more like that you are bragging - like what you studied, how much you made, or what kind of places you went, even your appearance.
But if thinking twice, you don't really have too much thing to brag about. Level 4 or 6 are nothing, there are tons of people from China speak fluent English. Ask yourself, is your English that good that you can understand every line in a movie? Can you respond quickly when your co-workers made a joke? Even say if your English is close to native speakers’, it's just a language, the fundamental tool to communicate. So, I am asking you here, what can you offer?
Don't get me wrong; I can totally understand where the puzzles came from. I am from Shanghai and had good education and excellent jobs before I came here too. I understand there probably are lots of disappointments here. But why mention going to Star Buck or Ikea as a way to show your standards there, cause for my understanding, they are not high-end shopping there either. Swimming or tennis, they should be hobbies, not something to brag about. Why does that make you special?
I feel you are phony. Can't you deny one of the reasons you married your husband at that time was that he was abroad? One day's knowing each other in face then got married the 2nd day? - That's just outrageous.
I think you should first look back your life a little bit, to ask yourself what you have been looking for, and if you are still on the right path on it? If you think you are, work harder, and change your attitude. If you think your husband is a good guy, give him more support, have more communications with each other. I don’t think it's an unreasonable request for their family to ask you to consider to sell the house over there, because you have to focus to settle in one place. The reason you haven't done so maybe because even at that time you were not sure if immigrating to Canada is the right choice for you!
So I have to say, you have to adjust your own attitude, and give yourself some time to think, and then it should come to a point to make a decision, either give it a trial, stay here, and make a happy family, or don't waste both of your time any more, go back and peruse what you think you want to peruse. But before you make the new decision, ask yourself, are you prepared for the fast changing job market in China? Otherwise, there might be another disappointment waiting for you.
Again, don’t get me wrong, actually I kind of like you, cause the similar background we had. And maybe you are a hard working girl and request yourself more. But your attitude and tone are the problems. |
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楼主: 人在异乡
狗仔卡
发表于 2004-8-10 14:18:23
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