移民心境：40岁的中年女人，怎么办？

linlinda

When you will be 50 something you may see that the 40 years' woman is still young.

DareDevil

sorry, im not too good at give direct answers to such kind questions, yes, i did spend my 40 minutes on them =) oh well, but if u think i wasted ur time, i nvr asked u to read =)

and oops, i just noticed u r the one posted thousands of posts here, looks like u r the one wasted so much time here =)
talk about getting a life......   no offense though sir =)

but anyway, this is the first day im posting stuffs here since i feel this emotional downside problem is getting more and more frustrating for many of us, i dont mind to spend a few minutes on them, unlike someone.....selfish....

if u dont want to waste ur time to read, go watch tv and eat some chips, live it up anyhow , no offense again =)

thanks for ur support =)

七成新—滕燕青

与大家分享我了解的信息，如有不准确的地方，请有识之士赐教。

1、离婚问题：
在加拿大申请离婚的条件是分居一年整；任何一方均可提出离婚申请。判决离婚时不看谁是过错方。判决离婚时不等于同时进行财产分割、孩子监护及抚养、对女方的赡养费等的判决，除非同时向法院提出申请。但不一定要等到申请离婚时才提那些事宜，可在提出离婚申请前向法院提出。

2、家庭暴力的问题：

第一，男人没有任何理由做出家庭暴力，无论什么样的理由都是借口。这是加拿大的逻辑，但我个人认为有可取之处。社会压力大，不是拿刀威胁或打骂妻子的护身符。

第二，加拿大有许多非营利组织提供帮助妇女反对家庭暴力的服务。她们并不逼迫你离婚或采取什么行动，除非预测到危及生命的可能比较大时才会催促妇女离开家庭去一个安全的地方晢时居住。在这样的机构，可以得到[U]心理情感上的支持，提供妇女所需要的所有服务，只要这种服务能对妇女身心健康有所帮助[/U] 。这种机构的项目受政府资助，对接受服务的妇女是免费的。这个项目叫做Violence Against Women Program 。据我所知，华咨处好象没有这类服务，如果需要服务我知道有一个机构可以提供普通话服务416 465 6021，河谷移民妇女中心。

3、政府提供的社会福利

确实是这样，一定要这个人一穷二白才有可能立即得到政府经济上的援助。如果银行有相当多的存款是不会考虑的。一般来讲，没什么存款，尤其没有房产的单亲妈妈会比较快地得到。

4、单亲妈妈

如果与丈夫分居，就是单亲。处于分居状态，政府就承认是单亲爸爸或妈妈。

不说是不行的

最初由[DareDevil]发布
im sorry, but i was mentioning about immigrants, and for international students, i have many international student friends, and i understand how hard is it for them, and i am aware of it.  But the condition for international students is more or less always the same.  However, there r many factors that r incomparible, such as, as i saw on the other post where this 24 years old international student died, many "rich students r too spoiled, waste money, and shows no respect to whom-so-ever, but the actual good students do not have a good background"

it is very true and similar in many immigrants cases, but for international students its much harsher, a lot of pressure on pursuing ur study, career, and family, budget r also some very important issues worth consideration and attention, i understand that.

but if u chose this path, walk it, i dont know what kind help u need, but u might as well tell me of it, but before u ask any of it, ask how far u can walk it first, on ur own.  and see how much others have walked.  unfortunatelly, there r just too much others cant do for u.

but the bottom line is, whether u like it or not, this is how it goes, and to be honest, i can never, and NOONE can ever be satisfied with whats before them.  but also, to be honest, i am satisfied whenever i need to, cuz thats my way of life, its nice to have big dreams and do something to achieve them, also u need to know enough. and pplz do not know whats "enough" had nvr yield out good results in their life.

"We'r glad with what we've got, done with what we've lost" life is such a complicated multi dimentional thing, its so nice to soar, well, many break their wings, on the other end, there r those who soar high...there is a difference, the difference is among themselves, not the excuses they come up with.

think of it, u do not have to be satisfied, whatever suits u, and anything goes.  its hard to suggest whats right or wrong. they r just my perspectives and view points, i hope u'll find ur answers here, and maybe, u can carry on with something lighter and brighter in ur heart.

Im sorry as these last few posts have already gone off topic, if u want to discuss this any further, link a new post =) thank u for reading =)

You wrote so much. However it's really waste of time, yours and ours, since there is no useful words in it.
All what you said are cliche and nonsense. No one knows what do you want to say.
Sorry for telling you about that.

高楼林立

看看周围别人怎么办，你就怎么办。这里年过四十的中年移民还不少，孩子大了，上学就业问题迫在眉睫，移民就是为了解决这个难题。读书也没用，一心打工，供孩子上学，买房买车。还真没听见他们报怨。相反，年纪小的移民孩子小，问题不迫切，回国或读书或打工，选择多了，就头疼，常抱怨。
如果不移民，孩子上清华北大将来也是要出国，上普通高校就业是问题，自费出国留学钱从哪来。移民解决了这么重要的问题，你还不满意，留恋国内的安逸生活。到时候孩子呆在家里没前途，你还安逸个屁。这么大岁数，轻重还拎不清？有年轻人抱怨的，也没你抱怨的。

DareDevil

im sorry, but i was mentioning about immigrants, and for international students, i have many international student friends, and i understand how hard is it for them, and i am aware of it.  But the condition for international students is more or less always the same.  However, there r many factors that r incomparible, such as, as i saw on the other post where this 24 years old international student died, many "rich students r too spoiled, waste money, and shows no respect to whom-so-ever, but the actual good students do not have a good background"

it is very true and similar in many immigrants cases, but for international students its much harsher, a lot of pressure on pursuing ur study, career, and family, budget r also some very important issues worth consideration and attention, i understand that.

but if u chose this path, walk it, i dont know what kind help u need, but u might as well tell me of it, but before u ask any of it, ask how far u can walk it first, on ur own.  and see how much others have walked.  unfortunatelly, there r just too much others cant do for u.

but the bottom line is, whether u like it or not, this is how it goes, and to be honest, i can never, and NOONE can ever be satisfied with whats before them.  but also, to be honest, i am satisfied whenever i need to, cuz thats my way of life, its nice to have big dreams and do something to achieve them, also u need to know enough. and pplz do not know whats "enough" had nvr yield out good results in their life.

"We'r glad with what we've got, done with what we've lost" life is such a complicated multi dimentional thing, its so nice to soar, well, many break their wings, on the other end, there r those who soar high...there is a difference, the difference is among themselves, not the excuses they come up with.

think of it, u do not have to be satisfied, whatever suits u, and anything goes.  its hard to suggest whats right or wrong. they r just my perspectives and view points, i hope u'll find ur answers here, and maybe, u can carry on with something lighter and brighter in ur heart.

Im sorry as these last few posts have already gone off topic, if u want to discuss this any further, link a new post =) thank u for reading =)

一见

难得的好主题，虽然主人的境况还很艰辛，但给人感觉到美好的前景已离不远，

已往看到许多抱怨者，只知道抱怨这不好，那不如意。等着掉馅饼。等不到就怪加拿大政府歧视。。。。。。

这样的文章才能给大家正确的指引。
:p  :p

老兵

不管记件还是别的方式，只要低于7.45圆/小时，就要去政府告老板。有的人就讨回来不少钱和尊严。就看你有没有勇气。

condition zero

why we should be greatful for the current conditions for immigrants? are u satisfied current condition? if u feel u are  better now, can u  help us , international student are condition zero , we are not greatful this situation.

DareDevil

pplz should be grateful for the current conditions for immigrants..... i rememeber when i came to canada more than 5 years ago, we didnt have any connections, relatives, we didnt have computers or any tools to find the informations we need, in other word, we started from the very , very scratch.  and i can almost guarantee u this, wat we have went through is one of the most, if not the most difficult experiences.

i see canada as a fair society and the new immigrants from china nowadays r complaining about EVERY SINGLE FREAKIN THING like if they r going to die if what they desired is not there.  i find it very pathetic that pplz r going back to china and coming back over and over, for some families, they've done this for more than 2 times, and they still come on this site to complain about everything like they have no shame

Its not a matter of not knowing where u belong, but rather u either have too much ego that u just do not know what the world is really about, or u were the kind of pplz that....u know....whose life is being lead by other pplz, instead of leading ur own life.

Ive heard many successiful stories of chinese immigrants, many of them have been through things that are so difficult that u nvr imagined an immigrant could go through.
But again, ive also heard about the stories of these pathetic idiots who chose suicide to end their own lives, and leave those loved ones behind.  Im sorry, but no offense i do not feel any pity for pplz like that.  They simply do not even worth to glance at.

We all have to start somewhere, but the point im trying to make is, work hard, and the world is urs, even if the world is never fair to u, show how much determination u have, show what u r made of, and eventually, it will pay off.

"life is like a box of chocolates, u nvr know what u r gonna get"

=) thx for reading =) feel free to post ur own opinions

condition zero

40岁的中年女人？我还以为是婚姻问题呢,怎么办? 凉拌。

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今夜星光灿烂，今夜无人入眠，在这个激动人心的时刻，让我们......朋友们，再见！”

海哮

难得的好主题，虽然主人的境况还很艰辛，但给人感觉到美好的前景已离不远，

已往看到许多抱怨者，只知道抱怨这不好，那不如意。等着掉馅饼。等不到就怪加拿大政府歧视。。。。。。

这样的文章才能给大家正确的指引。

xordos

最初由[condition zero]发布

what the hell are u counting for?

The above number is from frontpage, and attract me to this article...nothing more, I am not against the whole article.