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All the best!
Thanks for the questions raised by SUNSHINEMAN.
Everyone has his/her own pereference. I prefer to find my partner without having kids though he maybe divoiced.
My thoughts are: no matter what happens between the adults, it will be resolved as time goes by. But as a bilogical parent, you will never shut your responsibility. To avoid problems in the future relationship, I will never date with a man who has kids since this will be very complicated in my relationship with him. This is my personal criteria when I choose my partner. You may agree or not, it does not matter. As I pointed out, it is just my individual preference and opinion.
I said a foreign man does not have a complicated family relationship. It is merely based on my case. I am 100% sure my partner has no such intercrossed family relationships and I will be his first and only wife. Again, I prefer a simple and easy relationship including family members. Currentlly, I do not have any issue stemmed from my partner's family, probably never. His parents always think I am the closest one his son should be with. We get along very well. I respect them as if they are my parents. Absolutely no complex relationship between his monther and I, which most chinese couples may have (including myself). I love his mom very much!
Most important, as a woman, I think we should respect ourselves. We work hard and strive to our goals. Only you respect yourself, your partner will respect you.
Do not always take some words negatively. Do not try to think men and women who divoiced are bad persons. They may be not lucky in their marriages but this not necessary means they are not nice persons. My exhusband and I are still good friends. I still do not consider my exhusband a bad person. He may just not know how to act as a husband or we are simply not compatible. By the way, this was the first marriage for both of us. So we did not have an issue regarding kids from the previous marriage. I did not want to have kids with him just because I am a responsible person. I want to make sure I have a stable relationship when I have kids. If I am not confident, it is better not to let my kids suffer.
Some posts state that a woman who divoiced just wants to discard a shabby ship and jump to a luxurious boat. Sometimes this may be true. But it may not apply to my case. I am a woman who has a decent job and I do not have to rely on any man. Also, when I married my exhusband, I earned more than he did and already held PRs from other two countries. If I just want to have a financial secure or a Canadian citizenship, I did not feel I could get anything from him.
This is probably my last post as I do not like some people here always think things negetively! Please think positively and treat every one the way you like to be treated!
With a sincere hope that every man and woman could have a compatible and understanding partner, a harmonious family, cute kids and a life-time worth career! Life is too short to enjoy! |
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