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第一次到老外家做客:心中有无限感慨
本帖最后由 arashi 于 2012-10-30 10:39 编辑
Did your hubby's boss specifically invited your in-laws? If he just invited your family for dinner. That's mean the in-laws are absolutely NOT invited. This happened to me once in the past 30 years. I invited a Chinese friend's family over for dinner. They showed up with the in-laws. We were so outraged by their action and do not know them anymore.
Jstar 发表于 2012-10-30 10:16 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif
如果你是中国人,应该知道这是中国的风俗习惯,就算你移民了,也永远无法彻底瞥请中国的文化;如果你不是中国人,你有权愤怒,可是为什么不大度一些,尝试了解一下中国的文化呢?中国的家庭本来就是祖孙三代甚至四世同堂。你邀请了别人一家,人家当然带着自己所有的家人来了。
If you are Chinese, you should have known this is Chinese culture. Even if you have immigrated to other countries, Chinese culture is in your blood forever. if you are not Chinese, certainly you have the right to be angry, but why don't you be more understanding, trying to learn about other cultures? A typical Chinese family always includes all generations. When you invite a Chinese family, you actually invite everybody closely related to that family including the couple, the children and the couple's parents and in-laws.
Also, instead of being angry, why not try explaining the culture here? Please be nice to those who may not fully understand the Canadian culture and please help them learn. With Multiculturalism, what we need most is open communication and mutual understanding. |
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