Why people need to say something bad about Tommy? Can we say something more positive? If you don't donate money or show any support, it is o.k. No one forces you to do it. I don't think you want someone to bad-mouth you if you just lose your wife (or husband) and have a new born baby. I don't know Tommy and I don't thnk he is looking for money. He may need someone to help him to take care the baby more than anything. We always take about Chinese people can't live together in unity and here is an example. Why not show some respect to Tommy and show some love to the baby girl?
That’s totally different. The mom didn't have a job but she was still able to contribute to the family. Her work worth big money and kept the family's integrity, too. You may donate or just shut up.