Don't blame your husband for your own changes, which is very unfair. My husband is the same. Those kind of men usually have big and good heart. They are careless and not good at saying beautiful words, but they are always reliable. You should feel lucky.
You said something very funny about losing your attractive appearance and ehthusiasm for sex. I think you are one of the two people who can answer this question: Who is to blame?
One more advice: Don't waste your time on writing articles complaining about your not-miserable-at-all-life. Instead, spend more time with your husband touching his cheek or kissing his lip. Go to spa or find how to improve your sex power. Be satisfied with your life and do not look for somthing in the air.