你做好心理上“失去”孩子的准备了吗?

panda50

争取和孩子有更多的交集. 没有的领域,就不要过多的干预, 信任是交流的基础.

zhen2005

Overall, it is a fair article.  But I don't think it is because of moving to other country.   Look at the situations in China.  How many children there keep the tradition? The relationship between parents and kids even worse than here.  So many kids are over spoiled and self-centered,  some of them only know taking but never consider repaying their parents.   

Although the suggestions have nothing new, them are still right.

bluepike

it at first is horrible topic but the suggestion following the paragraph is so mean that is unable to stimulate something new, even helpful to Chinese parents. It is so ridicularious for parents to pray for having good-behaviored kid. In fact, right paraent, right family may have right kid. The outcomes from the parent perspectives are to make the transitions in the chind development, especially from teenage to adulthood, as smoothly as possible under friendly and respectful growing environ.

Can preying get what you want for your kids' future?

okokoko9

任何事都一样，期望越高，失望越大。自然一些，放弃过高的要求，一切好办

磨蹭一辈子

我想孩子大了， 自立了，自然做父母的就要渐渐转变干预的方式和地位。就像本来是长官和士兵的关系，渐变成同僚，朋友，在前方带路变成同行；很快地，父母会落后，甚至分开岔路，走不同的路奔向不同的人生目标。这种失去是必然的。只要家庭成员之间互相关爱的层次渐次提高，从一方完全依赖（婴幼儿时期）发展为知己朋友，互相支持，互相欣赏，保持亲情交流即可。孩子的成熟独立是必然的，其实父母才必须做适当的心理调适，否则，即使天天住在一个屋檐下也照样会“失去孩子”。