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作者: 九段 时间: 2009-11-10 09:07
标题: 出国多年更坚定我信念：不嫁外国人
大力的顶！

作者: Suntoront 时间: 2009-11-10 09:36
The things the author talks about may not be true for everyone. I have three friends they all marry Canadians. One of the husbands works for a big car companies. One has a small kitchen repair business. One has a family construction business. All of them are doing very good (at least their houses are getting bigger and bigger). They don't have big age difference, in fact, one girl is few years older than her husband. As long as about culture, I also don't see any problems. Sometimes we use our background for discussion or for fun.

作者: 为你服务 时间: 2009-11-10 09:53
又是一个2

作者: 高山 时间: 2009-11-10 10:28
怎么你认识的女的嫁的老外都不好呢？从几个婚姻例子来做结论是不是太草率了呢？多看看井外面也许对你的思维有帮助。

作者: Rose2013 时间: 2009-11-10 10:41
不会是吃不到葡萄就说葡萄酸吧？

作者: 郭大 时间: 2009-11-10 11:19
非常欣赏作者，英语能讲得很棒，又不失去自我, 中西文化都接受。没有小女人的虚荣，更重视实在的心与心的交流和默契。很喜欢这样的个性.

作者: jason12345678 时间: 2009-11-10 11:34
"嫁给外国人的不少，幸运儿也应该不乏其人，可是跃入我眼帘的不是男的比女的年纪大许多，就是男人没有什么体面的好工作，再不就是长相一点不英俊，或者来自一个极其麻烦的家庭。当然也有很多很优秀的外国人，"我怎么从来没见过嫁的老外有多优秀呀？嫁的老外，各个都挺差的，换成中国皮肤，最好的，也就属于中国人圈里的中下档次的

作者: 郭大 时间: 2009-11-10 11:50
夫妻相处之道是很大的学问，文化背景的差异只是众多差异中的一个。就算文化背景一致，其他的差异处理不好，夫妻间也是冲突不断。所以还要不断学习怎么处理差异。包括性别差异，家庭习惯差异，年龄差异，教育程度差异，爱好的差异........ 爱就是彼此珍惜和感激, 既了解自己，也了解对方.

作者: ydd 时间: 2009-11-10 11:59
萝卜青菜，各有所爱。各有个的想法和追求。整天拿这些没有可比性的东西比来比去，
很无聊。却倒反映出来国人好攀比的“文化底蕴”。

作者: OASIS_2009 时间: 2009-11-10 12:06
DO NOT SAY YOU DON'T WANT TO MARRY TO A CANADIAN. HE MIGHT NOT WANT TO MARRY TO YOU AS WELL.

MY SISTER MARRIED TO AN AMERICAN 10 YEARS AGO. THEY STILL HAVE A WONDEFUL MARRIAGE. THEY LOVE EACH OTHER ... THEY ARE SO HAPPY.

作者: walkntalk 时间: 2009-11-10 12:16
看了您的文章后，最触动我的是您英文口语的能力，能告诉我怎么练习吗？我的ＩＤ：ＷＡＬＫＮＴＡＬＫ

作者: hack2 时间: 2009-11-10 12:22
昨天听有人统计说白人有45%的比例有各种(与身具来的)体臭, 各种遗传病等说法. 请这里和洋人有一睡之源的姐妹们都具体说说是不是真有这么大的比例?
另外,我自己觉得,中国人和洋人(从文化,道德上) 不可能有本质的区别. 人种上有很大的区别而已. 不可能由于文化被井不同而不能理解. 要说不理解,就是你本人的文化程度(不是指学历)太低. 我从来没感到过对于他们的言行不理解.最多就是习惯做法不同.

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-11-10 12:30
鄙视那些找老外的。嫁中国人是正途。在我眼里，她们与妓女没有区别。同时，她们攻击亵渎中华民族与文化，一样是鬼物。

作者: savvama 时间: 2009-11-10 12:39
有可比性吗？如果你相信婚姻是缘分的话？

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-11-10 13:00
婚姻缘分要在人之间。中国有的人闭着眼睛讲缘分，与鬼也要讲讲缘分。与蛇老鼠动物世界也要讲讲缘分，并且是婚姻缘分。完全是东与西，不同的嘛。彻底一边斜，没有可比性。

作者: sunrise 时间: 2009-11-10 13:39
标题: 出国多年更坚定我信念：不嫁外国人
本帖最后由 sunrise 于 2009-11-10 13:53 编辑

不能种族歧视

作者: Josephin 时间: 2009-11-10 14:12
给人很不舒服的感觉。人家爱谁谁，那时人家的爱好，你难受也不必要打掉牙吞进肚，发那么大的毒誓，什么下辈子也不嫁老外。罗罗嗦嗦写这么大一通本身就表明作者是多么在呼，多么向说服自己。无聊。

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-11-10 14:13
作者的结论不仅对中国人中，对绝大多数他者也有用！世界各人种就一直是这么运作的。为什么有些人就不明白这么浅显的道理？没有民族血统文化自豪感的民族是没有希望的。以个人的力量去打破大部分人的世界观，是荒唐的。对猪羊牛等动物友好的理想口号是苍白的。

作者: Josephin 时间: 2009-11-10 14:15
同一文化背景的人们的婚姻同样有大把破裂的。而我有一个朋友就嫁给了有文化素质高且比她年轻的外国人，这怎么说？

作者: laoqiao 时间: 2009-11-10 15:21
我认为这样的观点有些偏激。文化固然是婚姻成败的一个因素，但并非决定因素。中国人之间的婚姻有多少失败的例子？而洋人中又有多少“好人”？如果说同文同种之间交流自在，默契，我没有异议。但是，不嫁外国人这样的坚定信念未必人人适用，仅仅是你个人的体会不在此发议论也罢。

另外，你的两个英文单词拼法有误： loser, darling

作者: mjq32 时间: 2009-11-10 16:13

昨天听有人统计说白人有45%的比例有各种(与身具来的)体臭, 各种遗传病等说法. 请这里和洋人有一睡之源 ...
hack2 发表于 2009-11-10 12:22 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

你是不是没和老外接触过呀，连我仅凭和他们在一起工作10年的经验都觉得文化差异思维方式差异巨大，更别说在一起生活了，肯定还会遇到更多平时看不到的差异。

作者: 花仙子2 时间: 2009-11-10 16:25
I BELIEVE LOVE IS THE MAIN THING BETWEEN THE TWO PEOPLE.

WHO-YOU-WANT-TO-MARRY-TO IS ONLY YOUR BUSINESS. IT DON'T MEAN ANYTHING TO OTHER PEOPLE.

I BELIEVE NO HANDSOME HIGH CLASS WHITE GUY LOVE YOU SO FAR. MAYBE YOU CAN FOCUS RICH HANDSOME CHINESE GUY .

GOOD LUCK!

作者: lblblb 时间: 2009-11-10 16:29
回复 23# laoqiao
loser, darling这都能错，素质有多高，值得怀疑

作者: 花仙子2 时间: 2009-11-10 16:33
i agree!!

作者: 萍乡 时间: 2009-11-10 16:48
我常觉得不少中国女人很蠢，脑子进水，总是觉得外国的月亮圆。老外钱多也不会给你。况且那么多差异。看中文是难得看到有好建议。

作者: 萍乡 时间: 2009-11-10 16:52
中国人信洋人，信洋文甚过国人与中文。下面引用点洋文支持本文作者观点。有点长，慢慢学习。

http://www.hubbynet.com/interracial_marriage.htm



Interracial marriages have a hard go at it.  They suffer not only from the prejudice of others, but also from inherent problems of differences between their respective cultures which combine with those already present in a marriage.  Ethnic groups bring variety and richness to a society by introducing their own ideas and customs.  Interracial marriages introduce such variety.  In a perfect world, everyone should celebrate this.  However, the world does not look at all marriages as love between two people without regard to their race.

Here is a bit of a piece I read off the Internet that gives some background on this problem.

"If we were truly color blind, we accept interracial marriages.  Nearly 500 years after America was discovered "Americans" are still preoccupied with race.  Today, America is still billed internationally as one of the best multicultural societies in the world.  Nevertheless, most Americans would disagree.

With so many marriages happening in the United States, it is hard to believe that as recently as 1966, 17 states actually had laws against interracial marriage.  And all of the states regulated marriage between whites and other races.  The Supreme Court overturned every states antimiscegenation laws (laws against marriage between different races) in 1967 (Myra 18).  In the legal case of Loving vs. State of Virginia, a white man and black woman won the right to return home after having fled their state to avoid a year's jail sentence for getting married (Myra 18).  "But as late as the seventies at least twelve states still had laws forbidding marriage between whites and other races" (Perkins 30).  Why have such laws?  A person should not have to worry about a law when marrying the person they love.  If the United States is really a melting pot, then citizens should not have to worry about falling in love and having laws that could separate them.

Noting that the idea of race itself is now under attack by scientists who are attempting to decide a definition for what constitutes a different race is important.  What they use now as a definition simply refers to the observable differences such as skin color, hair texture, and the shape of one's eyes or nose (Morganthau 63).

Considering all the biological differences within the human species these are at best superficial, and they cannot come up with any significant set of differences that distinguish one racial group from another.  Why do interracial couples still have trouble being accepted simply as two humans that love each other?

Both racial and cultural differences put pressure on the relationship.  With two different cultures, a family has to recognize such differences in order to understand each other.  Some couples embrace interracial love for rebellious, escapist, or other negative reasons (Mira 19).  Parents want their children to be happy, but in a racist society, they know what happens to black-white couples and their children.

Americans do not accept the children in society because people do not know how to treat them.  Unless interracial families live in cosmopolitan cities where interracial marriages are becoming more common, they face challenges monoracial couples don't experience.  "They need to use more energy and imagination to balance and celebrate two cultures.  They must be strong enough to endure the stares, tough enough to keep working at their cultural differences and confident enough to raise confident children" (Perkins 33).

In raising such children, the parents need to realize the child needs to embrace both cultures and teach him or her who they are.  Most Americans would like to consider themselves as modem idealists who are not prejudiced.  Americans do not mind the idea of interracial marriage but when children are involved the issue changes.

People would like to place these children in one class such as black or white.  We do not understand the way being multiracial accepts these children in our society.  We think of the children as not knowing who they are or where they belong.  Americans feel that they have to place the child in one race or the other no matter how the children see themselves.

With this persistent thinking the country will perceive this child as black.  With this specific label, the child grows up learning from others that he is black and experiences that life.  The child needs to grow up in an environment where he or she can experience life through both parents.  Lisa Jones dedicates her writing to exploring the African- American culture.

Here, she said, she feels comfortable and historically grounded.  She has found family there, whereas no white people have embraced her with their culture.  "I choose this class because if I call myself interracial I would need my "white" mother s presence to validate my half-whiteness" (Jones 80).  Lisa Jones grew up not learning about both cultures so she has lived her life as black and not white.  It is also important to note that not all blacks embrace interracial marriages themselves.

Black parents object as much to mixed marriages as do whites.  They feel that the person entering such a relationship is trying to deny his heritage and that they will lose their culture and identity.  They see it as assimilation into the melting pot.  African Americans also resist it because of the shortage of marriageable black men (Myra 19).

Black women feet betrayed or deserted when a black man marries a white woman.  Black activists feel mixed marriages weaken the African-American solidarity.  Yet, interracial marriage is increasingly common.  According to a recent Time Magazine poll, 72 percent of those polled know married couples of different races.  In our own neighborhoods we see even more black-white couples.  In America today, there are 242,000 black-white couples; almost four times as many as in 1970 (Interracial Baby Boom 54).  Such marriages are now common enough to cause the Census Bureau to consider adding the category "mixed" to its racial classification to describe the children of interracial marriages.  The Census Bureau and the Office of Management and Budget are receiving pressure from multiracial individuals and their parents to reexamine the 18-year-old method of classifying people.

The Census Bureau will not decide until 1997 and then the change would take affect in the 2000 census.  Only four states require a "multiracial" category on their school form (Norment 108).  It is still primarily a black-white issue.  Half the female Asian immigrants are married interracially, but many don't consider that an interracial marriage.  Black-white marriages receive the most negative reaction because of the 40-year history of hostility and tension.

In a recent poll in The Futurist the number of mixed-race married couples increased from 3 1 0,000 to 994,000.  One researcher explained that this trend is happening with all racial and ethnic groups but each individual pattern is different.  With the upward trend of more mixed births, this could show a sign that the social meaning of mixed births is undergoing change in the United States (Up to Separatism 30).

A multicultural society shows how much diversity is in America.  People from all over the world have immigrated to this country.  With so many cultures present today, everyone needs to be excited that others are sharing their way of life with us.  As the children of today grow up they have to have an open mind about the people around them and what they can learn from them.

With the increase of interracial marriages maybe they will become more accepted and not looked at as something that is not right".

Before my wife and I were married in Korea in 1983 we attended a pre-marriage seminar.  We were told at that time that more than ninety percent of Korean-American marriages end up in divorce before the first five years is over.  Not exactly encouraging information for a new couple.

But we have made it and so can you.  All it takes is learning how to communicate and understand the differences between the two of you.  This is beyond the differences inherent of male and female, but is also cultural as well.

For instance you might find in the beginning of the relationship that everything is new and fresh.  But as time goes on you begin to notice differences in the way you both look at things.  Men and women are different for sure, but add cultural differences and there are even more magnified problems than those in non-interracial marriages.

Cultural Differences

When you have two people from two different countries, or from two different races, you have vast amounts of difference from many different angles.  First, there are established differences because of the different ways that people are brought up.  For instance in my own marriage there is a marked difference between the way I was brought up here in the U.S. and the way my wife was brought up in Korea --the difference between eastern thought and customs and those of the West are huge.

For instance there is a difference in the way women in the east view the marriage relationship and specifically the role of the husband and the wife, and how a marriage is viewed in western thought.  How this difference affects a marriage is determined by the expectations each partner takes into the marriage.  If for instance the woman is from a country where women were traditionally housewives, with no aspirations of a career of their own, when they marry a man from the west they may immediately run into a problem.  While the landscape is changing, much of the older world is still involved in playing specific roles.  That is, the role of the man and the role of the woman - as in husband and wife.  In the west, while still extent to this day, these roles have for the most part disappeared.

That is because many men in the west while having an expectation or at least a desire that their wives will be home to take care of the roost, many more would like their wife to work to supplement the family income.

So in asking their eastern mate to work they might find a conflict.  It is not that she is lazy; it is just that it goes against all she was taught or expected of her marriage.  Later as she learns the ways of the west this may change and if possible goes into her own career.

Racial Differences

More closer to home there are racial differences that are not specific with marriage relationships.  They are the differences that occur across the board regardless of relationship, which happen because of prejudice and ignorance.  Prejudice which has existed since the beginning of time along with it's twin sister ignorance.

Take these common cultural differences combined with a marriage relationship with its own kind of problems and there are all the ingredients necessary for conflict.  Each person in an interracial relationship has taken a chance.  They have entered into a relationship that might not be acceptable by the prejudices of their own family or friends.  For myself bringing my new Korean wife home in 1983 met with a lot of indifference from my family while other accepted her into the fold.

I wish now that I would have known then what I know now, and then I wouldn't have made so many mistakes. There were a lot of things that l took for granted then. Like she would adjust to the American way of life with ease. I was wrong.  While she adapted to many things rather easily, there were other things that she had great difficulty with.  Because I lacked the knowledge on how to help her in those areas there was a great amount of friction.

For instance, in Korea families are close knit even long after the person leaves the house to start their own life.  Yet in America, depending of course on that family's cultural background, the nurturing stops sometime after puberty.  The theme of the times and the environment is individuality.  There is a separation of family unity at this point where a person begins to gain more individuality.  In fact individuality is the theme of our western culture.  It's in all the media -magazines, songs, movies and TV.  While in older cultures individuality is frowned upon and in some cases completely swallowed up in the mesh of the family unit.

This separation of affections affected my wife profoundly and for the most part negatively.

After a few years though she grew to understand it and accept it.  But it was a rough and really unnecessary road to travel.  I could have helped her through the transition if I would have known how

Overcoming the Prejudice and the Problems

How do you overcome the problems if you are in an interracial marriage?  First by understanding that your situation isn't unique.  Your relationship is one of millions.  Therefore there is help and support.  You can find some of those supports here on Hubbynet

Some of the other things you can do are to find out as much as you can about your mates culture and background as you can.  It will help you to understand your mate's problems if you can determine the conflict between your culture and theirs.  The bookstore is loaded with cultural books that explain fully what the other culture is all about.

Be patient and teach your partner your customs and culture.  Not your prejudices and beliefs!  Don?t expect that just because they are in YOUR country they should adapt to your ways.  They probably will over time, but don?t apply the pressure. Let them grow on their own with your help and understanding.

作者: 闻琴解佩 时间: 2009-11-10 17:32
把这儿一众浅薄而沾沾自喜的女人都比下去了！支持！

作者: rcajht 时间: 2009-11-10 17:48
自己高兴就行，管它是哪里人。

作者: richardwang 时间: 2009-11-10 17:58
看到有中外婚配的消息，俺就激动，人类进一步融合了！
“杂交串种”是消除民族，人种，国家间隔和的最好方式，
既自然又和平。你中有我，我中有你，骂娘都要悠着点儿。

作者: OASIS_2009 时间: 2009-11-10 18:07
IT IS SAID CHINESE MEN ARE NOT SEXY ENOUGH. THEY ARE NOT GENTLE IN FRONT OF LADIES ...

作者: OASIS_2009 时间: 2009-11-10 18:26
回复 13# 中大

作者: OASIS_2009 时间: 2009-11-10 18:27
标题: RE: 出国多年更坚定我信念：不嫁外国人
回复 13# 中大

作者: OASIS_2009 时间: 2009-11-10 18:28
SHUT UP YOUR XXXING MOUTH!

作者: sunrise 时间: 2009-11-10 18:52
回复 23# laoqiao
loser, darling这都能错，素质有多高，值得怀疑, 支持！！！
这类文章不应该登，太有损中国人形象。

作者: 曾经的秋天 时间: 2009-11-10 19:07
看这个作者说了半天，却没有令人折服的point，怀疑“吃不着葡萄说葡萄酸”的可能性更大。无论中国还是西方，男人都有三六九等，也都无法以偏概全，说一个地方的男人就一定具有什么样的特质。就是中国男人，还有东北男人、北京男人、上海男人的种种区别呢，哪能就说都一个样儿了呢！女人找男人，多是根据自己的标准和脾性要求，很少听说非要是洋人、或非是中国人才嫁的。什么时候中国人真正跳出了这个所谓的非中不嫁的怪圈，对这种事情泰然处之，什么时候才真正体现了一个大民族的风范！

作者: 老知青 时间: 2009-11-10 19:11
回复 1# 王有福

是呀、文化是最大的差异。

作者: tulip7 时间: 2009-11-10 19:56
浅薄幼稚无聊的文章。

你要嫁的人不能用颜色，人种来区分。作者和那些一定不嫁中国人的人没区别。

作者: biantbien 时间: 2009-11-10 21:05
“出国多年更坚定我信念：不嫁外国人".作者在国外的这几年，恐怕心里总在比较。且沾沾自喜不已，自己嫁给中国人。其实根本没可比性。婚姻就如人们穿鞋，冷暖自知。人长得如何，工作如何，赚钱多少，并不就带来幸福，文化背景的不同也并不必然导致无法沟通和理解。

作者: 雅茹 时间: 2009-11-10 21:30
这是个找抽的贴子, 毫无逻辑可言

嫁爱自己的人, 或/并自己爱的人; 嫁不着优秀的老外, 与其嫁洋垃圾不如嫁优秀的中国人; 这才是合乎逻辑的...

作者: velocity 时间: 2009-11-10 21:33
除了白人，还有没有和其他种族通婚的？
大力鼓励华人女人和黑人通婚，这样的婚姻更让人感动！那才是真正的感情，它摒弃了外貌、财富、地位、世俗偏见，是真正的人类美好的爱情！！！！

作者: 一圆店 时间: 2009-11-10 21:33
好文章。这是一个很清楚的道理，但很多女人不明白。

作者: OASIS_2009 时间: 2009-11-10 21:59
标题: RE: 出国多年更坚定我信念：不嫁外国人
回复 42# 雅茹

作者: aer24 时间: 2009-11-10 22:25
作者一定是江西人或受江西文化影响至深。让江西人打败所有的猪国人。猪国女人无耻难看而有不可救药。只有骄傲江西人才能配称为中国人。

作者: 依水巍山 时间: 2009-11-10 22:28
好妹妹，我顶你！

作者: lily_yq 时间: 2009-11-11 00:34

那些找老外的变味鸡，同时也被老外社区歧视，活该！
中大发表于 2009-11-10 12:33 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

既然老外都不好，那么你为什么还呆在老外的社区？嫁给老外是变味鸡，那你呆在老外社区是什么？

作者: dust2 时间: 2009-11-11 01:14
自己觉得嫁的对就得了!

作者: 太普通 时间: 2009-11-11 01:20
老外不喜欢中国,不要嫁. 就是喜欢中国也不一定能嫁.

作者: 一圆店 时间: 2009-11-11 08:44
语言不通，文化背景不同。能有什么理解，沟通？其实就是睡觉，性交。不要拿高雅的词汇来迷惑大家。

作者: 新罗马新铁木真 时间: 2009-11-11 10:12
标题: 出国多年更坚定我信念：不嫁外国人
本帖最后由新罗马新铁木真于 2009-11-11 10:13 编辑

1、中国现在的国家实力已经比较强、中国现在的国际地位已经比较高；
2、中国的国家实力在不断提升、中国的国际地位在不断提高，中国的发展潜力还很大很大，一旦彻底解决一帮罪恶滔天和穷凶极恶的亡命徒要挟中华民族30多年到如今的天大问题，则中国必将取得非常可喜的巨大发展与进步；如果改革开放初期中国解决了亡命徒问题，则今天中国的国家实力至少扩大3倍。
大家回顾一下有多少有大罪而无大才、更无大贡献的亡命徒变成了中国的国家领导人？
这帮亡命徒个个是疯子、骗子和贼！把中国大陆祸害到无以复加的地步。

我坚信中国一定能够成为世界首强，但中国必须解决亡命徒要挟国家的大问题。

作者: Waterpower 时间: 2009-11-11 10:53

看这个作者说了半天，却没有令人折服的point，怀疑“吃不着葡萄说葡萄酸”的可能性更大。无论中国还是 ...
Jacqueline19 发表于 2009-11-10 19:07 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

顶!
有些个别人就是无聊. 你以为你是谁呀? 没事乱下结论. 讨论些文化之间的差异或这种差异闹出的笑话更有意义.
充分显示这个作者思想偏激,狭隘和阴暗.

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-11-11 10:53
回复 47# lily_yq

我喜欢看世界风景吧。喜欢去不同的地看一看。弄不好还喜欢去月球。呆在老外的社区就一定要变鸡呀？永远我是一个堂堂正正的中国人！

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-11-11 11:11
对变味鸡，影响中华国格人格，影响中华男性的性福指数，影响质量数量，要采取措施扫荡消灭之。变味鸡王八铁心吃秤驮只会陪鬼，动物乐，只会陪鬼，动物上床睡觉。

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-11-11 11:41
接54续：只会陪鬼，动物上床睡觉。反正关了灯就没区别。

作者: 甜薄荷 时间: 2009-11-11 23:26

夫妻相处之道是很大的学问，文化背景的差异只是众多差异中的一个。就算文化背景一致，其他的差异处理不 ...
郭大发表于 2009-11-10 11:50 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

说得对，嫁同胞也未必幸福，嫁鬼佬也未必不幸福，只有嫁和被家的人最清楚，我们不要背后说三道四，再说如果你已经嫁了，维持好自己的婚姻才算本分，还把不嫁外国人当信念，好像情理上说不通，

作者: ***** 时间: 2009-11-12 00:16
Western people and Chiese people are the same thing. Actually Western people are purer and more earnest than Chinese people,according to my own experience. At least, they should understand and appreciate each other FULLY. WITH KNOWLEDGE, COMES UNDERSTANDING. WITH UNDERSTANDING, COMES LOVE.

作者: 柏芝 时间: 2009-11-12 11:09
中国人观点世界只有平等好坏之分是除了中国人圈外没有多少市场的。在中国人论坛女人所谈的只能得到歪曲的世界观。所胃妓女也有道理。
其实这我有一定发言权。我与西人男性有过接触。他们认为中国女是亚洲女中最为开放的。有的有老公也与西人有亲密接触。西人他们都认为有点理解不了。中国移民许多家庭都处在危机中。这种情况远甚过日本女子，超过韩国女子。处与亚洲西部南亚来的更是认为这是妓女行为 (这些西人男子没有一个想与中国女子结婚的)。

作者: 柏芝 时间: 2009-11-12 11:26
中国出得妓女最多，也就见怪不怪。只是一般妓女干活拿钱，不出感情。而我所提与西人交往的中国来的，既在经济上没有好处，感情上也像教堂里圣女一般上现。

作者: Waterpower 时间: 2009-11-12 13:45
我歧视那些鸡女,但很多人的思想和语言比鸡女肮脏不知多多少倍.
确定那些语言和思想是从鸡屁股里出来的.

作者: 花仙子2 时间: 2009-11-12 14:46

既然老外都不好，那么你为什么还呆在老外的社区？嫁给老外是变味鸡，那你呆在老外社区是什么？
lily_yq 发表于 2009-11-11 00:34 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

good point !!

作者: 花仙子2 时间: 2009-11-12 14:55

那些找老外的变味鸡，同时也被老外社区歧视，活该！
中大发表于 2009-11-10 12:33 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

you are the 变味鸡 too for traditional Chinese people . living with it !!

so do not say something so rude like that . not good .

作者: aer24 时间: 2009-11-12 15:25
回复 60# dmelli

你们这些少数败类异类，很多人的思想和语言怎么会比鸡女肮脏多少倍？逻辑不同。无疑问，鸡才是最脏的。其次才算猪。

作者: aer24 时间: 2009-11-12 15:35

good point !!
花仙子2 发表于 2009-11-12 14:46 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

毫无逻辑。老外社区有什么好？外国人呆在中国，中国就一切都好吗？呆在这里不是为了找老外，特别是婚姻而言。

作者: 一圆店 时间: 2009-11-12 17:53
回复 15# savvama

老外身上的味道让人受不了

作者: iQuest 时间: 2009-11-12 19:53
"当我在餐桌上和老公就南北菜系的细微差别进行讨论的时候，当我们对一个时代的声音同时进行怀念的时候，当我们只要对方吐出一个字，就能深透它背后的５０００年历史的时候，更当我们在冬日的早晨，因对方的一句＂罗衾不耐五更寒＂而发出会意的一个微笑的时候，等等等等，我都要深深地庆幸，我是多么幸运地嫁给了一个同自己有一样文化的"

When we can sing the same songs that we grew up with, when we can talk about the movies stars we are all familiar with, the icon people in the Chinese history....etc and etc. We don't have to explain to each other. There is always the common understanding...

I totally agree with the author's point. And I could tell that she must have the dating experiences with white guyes- otherwise she won't come up with this conclusion.

Love is the purest thing in the world- if there is no other condition attached, believe most people will choose life partner from their own culture!

作者: 花仙子2 时间: 2009-11-13 10:35

语言不通，文化背景不同。能有什么理解，沟通？其实就是睡觉，性交。不要拿高雅的词汇来迷惑大家。
一圆店发表于 2009-11-11 08:44 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

haha that is all you think ??

so that is the reason why one-dollor-store don't understand how HR make money !

作者: 玛雅大妹 时间: 2009-11-13 18:50
我坚信有一天，会没有国界，没有种族，我们遵循爱的力量，走到一起，生生不息，一起建设这美丽的蓝色星球。

作者: 哇咧 时间: 2009-11-14 11:05
too shyme

作者: 田苗苗 时间: 2009-11-14 14:01
我周围认识的人里有三个嫁老外的，按我的观点看，这女的都不如老外男的。长相就不说了，可以解释为审美观不同。她们人品也有问题，反正和别的朋友聊天说起来她们干的那些事啊，真是挺差劲的，不是善良厚道之辈。这都是嫁老外之前我们就了解的。后来不知道怎么她们都嫁了老外了，过得还挺好，至少表面上或者自己说起来的挺好。我们就觉得啊也可能老外比较单纯，不像我们中国人看中国人那么深。或者在我们看来很差劲的行为老外还以为是不同文化呢。

刚才我说我们都觉得这女的不如男的，我想可能是因为我们对女的太了解，对男的老外不怎么了解，只是表面接触，说不定在他们的圈子里口碑也不好呢。

作者: ***** 时间: 2009-11-14 14:28
回复 69# 一阵雨

男的都顶忙，都给政府管的。闲聊大都来自女性或者gays。我们中国该多一点宽容，务实，正直的同胞，增强我们的民族素质，与之抗衡。

作者: 郑中国 时间: 2009-11-15 21:35
我们学校门卫是一个红鼻头的洋人老头，有一天他叫住我对我说：我曾经有一个女朋友是中国人，她给我讲了一个笑话: "中国食物好吃，中国女人好，中国政府坏蛋，中国男人不怎样" 当然我听候也回击了几句，我不是想说这个洋人，因为他并不值得我们讨论。只是不知道这个给他提供笑话的女人知不知道她自己有多愚蠢。嫁洋人嫁洋人，真不知道怎样劝你啊中国女人！三思而后行吧！

作者: 梅老师 时间: 2009-11-15 22:37
好像只有中国人是世界上最歧视别人的人。用不着这样的口吻去谈论嫁的什么人种。各人有各人的原因嫁个什么人。中国人嫁外国人，或者中国人嫁了中国人用不着值得骄傲和炫耀而踩低别人的。写这样的东西，只能说明作者没文化。

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-11-16 10:31
回复 32# OASIS_2009

找过老外的都成了怪物。不管是思想上还是行为上，给婚期中华男子交往造成极大困扰，阻扰中华和谐社会开展。弘扬中华文化，先从中华婚恋文化开始。

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-11-16 10:34

you are the 变味鸡 too for traditional Chinese people . living with it !!

so do not say somet ...
花仙子2 发表于 2009-11-12 14:55 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

妓女最喜欢骂人的话就是：你也是个鸡。再说说各地的最常用粗话－江西：你个卖鳖（芘）个。湖北：你个婊子养的。安徽：你个畜生。

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-11-16 10:40
回复 72# 梅老师

没文化的人常说的就是别人没文化。弘扬中华文化，先从中华婚恋文化开始。
应多了解这个复杂的世界 (世界将来必然大同不是一个许多人都认同的)。

作者: 花仙子2 时间: 2009-11-16 14:52

妓女最喜欢骂人的话就是：你也是个鸡。再说说各地的最常用粗话－江西：你个卖鳖（芘）个。湖北：你个 ...
中大发表于 2009-11-16 10:34 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

it seems it really got your nerve .hahhahahaha

someone rape you before ? 北京话：操你丫的。

作者: apricot329 时间: 2009-11-16 20:55
楼主如果真是个女人, 她真他妈无聊, 你嫁鸡嫁狗谁都管不着, 只怕没人要你!

作者: 玛雅大妹 时间: 2009-11-19 18:25
你已经嫁了中国人，不要老想着嫁外国人。

作者: hongchen 时间: 2009-11-19 21:06
回复 12# hack2

鄙视爱睡女儿孙女的中国男人。鄙视抛同龄妻，做老牛吃嫩草的变态的中国男人。

作者: 加加减减 时间: 2009-11-21 08:09
很典型的狭隘思维

作者: 江南一家人 时间: 2009-11-22 17:35

it seems it really got your nerve .hahhahahaha

someone rape you before ? 北京话：操你 ...
moon stone 发表于 2009-11-16 14:52 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

北京的语言里受蒙古等外族影响，有不少这类词汇，原是蒙古等族的势力范围下的边都，本应是中华文化（话）的边角。北京里有名的痞子文化，导致中国人普遍素质低下（无论男女），难道你们逃得了干系吗？

作者: 江南一家人 时间: 2009-11-22 17:43

楼主如果真是个女人, 她真他妈无聊, 你嫁鸡嫁狗谁都管不着, 只怕没人要你!
apricot329 发表于 2009-11-16 20:55 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

中国男人的不闻不问，导致中国女人的大量出走，说中国女人是世界闻名的鸡或娼，开放给外族（却不给或少给中国男人），许许多多中国男人一点也不比她们强。

作者: 江南一家人 时间: 2009-11-22 17:51

很典型的狭隘思维
加加减减发表于 2009-11-21 08:09 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

只要是老外，就是高级的。神秘感物质欲指导下某些中国女人不仅狭隘，而且无知，可笑。一切包括教育对她们不起作用。

作者: 中大 时间: 2009-12-3 22:19
先鼓一下掌。以上大家说出了大家想说的。这里是最热又高的评论，却不敢让其上头条，无忧有点不敢面对强烈民意。

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